why i can't predict the weather past the storm

Being fat carries with it a lot of cultural baggage. At the same time, fat people, especially fat women, are supposed to pretend we don’t exist or that we’re not fat. I can’t count the number of times thin people have made reference to fat people or fatness in a negative or joking way in front of me, from the petite woman sitting next to me at the coffee shop complaining about fat people on airplanes, to my friends who routinely make jokes about their “inner fat kids” coming out when they eat a lot, to the women in my family who compete to see who can look the thinnest in family photos. Sometimes it feels like I’m not even there, or that I’m not supposed to be. - Lisa C. Knisely

http://bitchmagazine.org/article/its-not-me-its-you-dating-while-fat-louie (via fresafresca)


Online dating while fat


Are you fat and dating online? How’s it going for you? How’s the experience in general? Any recommended sites?

I live a pro-OKCupid life. I’m queer and have enabled the “hide straight people” feature and it basically improves the experience 100000%. I also state unapologetically in the very first sentence of my profile that I’m fat, which weeds out both the gross fat-shamers and the people who don’t get fat as a political identity. I also am a big fan of the feature whereby you can see potential matches’ answers to questions that you’ve rated as mandatory; if the cutie I’m thinking about messaging answered the “would you ever date a fat person?” question with “no,” I know not to bother.


Fat people do not have to be healthy in order to deserve dignity

Fat people do not have to be healthy in order to deserve dignity

Fat people do not have to be healthy in order to deserve dignity

If I see someone say, “It’s ok to be fat as long as you’re healthy,” one more time I’m gonna lose it. I know this is a crazy radical idea, but how about someone’s health has nothing to do with how you should treat them or how much respect they are deserving of?



i swear to god if i see another person saying ‘if you think obesity is bad, you’re a fat shamer!!’


obesity is a real problem that causes lots of diseases

and just because i don’t like obesity, doesn’t mean i don’t like obese people

it’s like, i hate cancer, but i don’t hate people with cancer or shame people who have cancer



there is a big difference between obesity and cancer. real talk: for a variety of reasons (genetic & based in my personal medical history) there is never gonna be a me who isn’t fat. there is no way to distinguish me from my “obesity.” when you talk about ending obesity, you are talking about ending ME. see also: http://www.shakesville.com/2011/09/on-fat-hatred-and-eliminationism.html?m=1

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That time target pulls its plus size line and doesn't tell anyone. →


A week ago I went into a local target and tried to find their plus size section only to find racks upon racks of straight sized clothes on clearance where the section normally is. I found an employee who told me that they put all of the plus size clothing on clearance and that they are suppose to…

It’s definitely an example of thin privilege that folks who can wear main sizes don’t have to put up with this kind of fuckery, but let’s not forget that this isn’t the first ridiculous/problematic thing target has done by any means.

You Can’t Undo Body Shame by Shaming Other Bodies →



Source: Imgur

[The graphic consists of a photograph of Morpheus from The Matrix. The text at the top reads: “What if I told you” and the text on the bottom…

The Tyranny of ‘the Normal’: Why the BMI has always been a hot ton of oppressive bullshit →


A few years ago I was getting a pap smear. The doctor—whom I had just met that morning—had me in those cold metal stirrups and was rooting around in my vagina when she asked, ever so casually, “so, do you know what the BMI is?”

I laughed.

As if a woman who has been fat all of her life might…