February 2012
Intent is not magical.
jhameia:
eateroftrees:
thefremen:
It doesn’t mean that any harm done is less harmful. It doesn’t provide an excuse for those who act as abusers without the express intent of causing harm. What one tries to do and what one does are often different things and to others what we are trying to do is completely irrelevant information.
Erm, that’s not quite true. What intent doesn’t do is...
anthrodynia
dictionaryofobscuresorrows:
n. a state of exhaustion with how shitty people can be to each other, typically causing a countervailing sense of affection for all things that are sincere but not judgmental, are unabashedly joyful, or just are.
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fringe is really really good, y'all.
fyi.
#Uterati Wiki Project: Taking Back Women’s Rights... →
“And yet a woman’s weight is seen by American culture as an outward manifestation...”
– Everybody, Every Body: the Media’s Erasure of Fat Girls (via junehymn
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“But that raises another question, one that may be more important than “what is...”
– Apple’s big chance to ‘act different’ on labor - The Washington Post
I will start to seriously consider the idea of...
stfuconfederates:
I will also begin to entertain the notion of Misandry when we have 44 consecutive female presidents.
The same goes for:
straight-shaming
cis-shaming
anti-Christian persecution
Etc and so forth.
So shuddup.
local control of production and distribution is...
what is distribution? what is production? what is...
does the medicalization of birthing have any...
do women and girls need food, housing, health...
who controls land resources in the US? who holds...
do you know that advocating for grocery stores in...
milkeemountainmama:
every-inch-but-one:
can someone point me in the direction of writing on this? Because none of the food deserts I’ve ever been in had anything like what this seems to be implying. Not to mention the fact that grocery stores supply more than just things that can be gardened, like milk, cheese, meat, etc.
that would be me, and welcome to Detroit.
ETA: just realized i...
what does it mean to ask for literature and...
searchingforknowledge:
Why is it that when documentary filmmakers film stuff about the situation, the films are locked up in distribution patterns that leave them only seen by a tiny few of the elite in the artfilm world so that they can say oh and ah, and if they are lucky, end up in colleges at $100- $250 a pop so that profs can show them to the kids lucky enough to hit college? How come...
milkeemountainmama:
How many feminist institutions have worked to organize local feminist groups on how to apply for and start up/run a community radio station? Did you know that the process to get a radio station was opened to the public for the first time in YEARS recently by the FCC? Did you know right wing churches have been organizing their communities?
what does the human right to movement and travel...
what does the feminist emphasis on getting into...
lubiddu:
Blackamazon is too much: Also cause well I am BA
blackamazon:
I need to take a survey from the self righteous muhfuggas in da room. Since so many folks know what they would do if a partner was suddenly violent:
IF you were to leave your current romantic partner , how many of you could find other housing on a semi permanent basis immediately/ or continue to…
You know, I want to...
The pressures of my mid sized social circles was...
genderbitch:
How in the goddamn hell do you think the pressures of an entire music industry and American consumer culture, far larger than any social circle, might affect Rihanna?
FFS people, this is not rocket science.
Smash the White Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy:... →
karnythia:
It’s funny in a very unfunny way how little consideration is given to life after an abusive relationship for the survivor. Lots of discourse on treatment for the abuser, and lots of debate about what survivors should have done, could have done, or whatever. But no one really talks…
Smash the White Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy:... →
ethiopienne:
SURVIVORS. DO. NOT. NEED. YOUR. INPUT. [TW: sexual assault, domestic violence] I cannot tell you how many times I’ve found the courage to speak about what happened to me when I was younger only to hear “…you know you should’ve reported that, right?” or “so you didn’t say…
And as if this shit occurs in a fucking vacuum.
thecurvature:
As if there is not an enormous amount of social pressure on Rihanna to “forgive” Chris Brown.
Because for every person reviling Chris Brown as the anti-Christ, there’s at least one thinking that everyone needs to just forget the whole thing and let poor Chris go about his life. And what kind of crimp is that in his ability to do that if she’s still gonna be MAD about it?
As if...
And it's CONFUSING!
liquornspice:
It’s confusing and horrible and terrible when an abuser contacts you. And, newsflash, people are often used to placating their abusers and acting nice so they CAN AVOID MORE ABUSE.
Rihanna could’ve said thank you for any number of reasons!
Maybe it was a relfex. Maybe she wanted to brush him off before he started more drama. Maybe she wanted to prove she’s not afraid of him....
I NEED BAD THINGS TO HAPPEN TO THE DAILY WHAT
thecurvature:
liquornspice:
like…NOW. I need a fucking petition signed by Oprah and Michelle Obama telling them how wrong and awful and evil they are for that post. That is what I need to happen.
It’s amazing how fast we turn on survivors of violence the moment they “misbehave.”
It’s amazing the way that people don’t seem to understand how abusive dynamics can continue after a relationship...
“And don’t give me that, “Oh we reached out to communities of color but they...”
– From “…On Taking Up Space” by witchymorgan on the Bklyn Boihood blog
I also love the paragraph after this one but it’s a short article and I’ve included links. This could be a good resource to send people if they don’t get why POC often don’t feel comfortable in many queer/trans* spaces.
(via...
this ain't livin': I Hate you, Steven Moffat →
There’s something about watching a lot of television in very short order that allows for some fascinating processes. Because you’re seeing it in compressed form, rather than stretched out over weeks, some of the flaws become more apparent, as of course do the things that work well. It’s also much easier to follow the various bread crumbs dropped, because you can think back two weeks instead of...
Just, seriously, are we still having this...
chonklatime:
ayries:
Shit that is not sexist re: Irene’s portrayal in Sherlock:
She is a sexual person
She is a sex worker
She is gay/a lesbian
She is not 100% perfect 100% of the time
She does not do literally every single thing on her own
Shit that is just generally not automatically sexist:
A woman losing
A woman needing to be helped/saved
A woman being emotional, vulnerable, etc.
...
“My mother said I must always be intolerant of ignorance but understanding of...”
– Maya Angelou (via xxxi-i-mcmxcii)
ETERNALLY CO-SIGNED. I’ve known brilliant insightful people who never finished college, never finished high school, and even some that can’t read/write beyond signing their name. I’ve also known people with PhDs and ivy league degrees who are airheads that are...
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can we pause a moment...
milkeemountainmama:
and just really sit with the fact that when DHS is admitting it is policy to monitor the internet specifically looking for commentary on immigration—while, yes, everybody has an opinion on the situation, it is those people who are connected to immigrant communities, actively organizing around immigration, are immigrants themselves, have been critical of immigration policies,...
Stress Impacts Good Parenting →
Good parenting requires psychic resources. Complex decisions must be made. Sacrifices must be made in the moment. This is hard for anyone, whatever their income: we all have limited reserves of self-control, and attention and other psychic resources. In that moment, fretting about the deadline, your psychic resources were depleted. Facing pressure at work, you did not have the freedom of mind...
“Most female-specific stereotypes are based in the universal fear of an unbridled...”
– —Tammy Rae Carland, “Reflections of a Stupid Slut” (from I <3 Amy Carter)
Dear Hugo Schwyzer,
Poverty does not make girls, as you say, hypsersexualized, competitive, and promiscuous. Being poor (or being nonwhite) makes rich, white, sexist men project their own feelings about the availability...
calloutqueen:
I was at Quimby’s and almost every gay “art” magazine mostly just featured hegemonically attractive men in their underwear
BORED
Strong People Don't Have Needs & Other Myths That...
arewomenhuman:
(Trigger warning)
karnythia:
I’ve been tweeting all morning about #rapeculture & #abuseculture, and someone asked me what I meant when I referred to Strong People Myths. I think some/most of us are familiar with the Strong Black Woman Trope right? Right. For those that are unfamiliar with it, it can best be summed up as the idea that black women are so strong they don’t...
Jus Sayin
blackamazon:
Pictures of people dying and women being beaten in war are also triggering .
Pictures of people using your culture that GETS you raped are triggering
So when we spend mother flipping centuries telling you that
And you only manage to find “collective rage” when you have prepped your content providers with the perception it DOESN’T matter on brown bodies
When it shifts to a white...
Dear everyone remotely connected to Jezebel:
panasonicyouth:
Trigger warning: rape, sexual assault, general grossness of all humanity
anedumacation:
Now would be a great time to resign in protest.
What they just did, which was, let me remind you, posting screencaps of a woman’s rape that was uploaded to youtube, that goes so far beyond the pale of human decency….
I cannot believe they thought this was okay simply because they hid the...
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Antilamentation, by Dorianne Laux
dinahlance:
Regret nothing. Not the cruel novels you read to the end just to find out who killed the cook. Not the insipid movies that made you cry in the dark, in spite of your intelligence, your sophistication. Not the lover you left quivering in a hotel parking lot, the one you beat to the punchline, the door, or the one who left you in your red dress and shoes, the ones that crimped your...
This shit is no joke.
dumbthingswhitepplsay:
My mom is a fairly attractive Caribbean woman, who works in a position of leadership that she was voted into by her peers.
She’s married to my dad, and happily so since 1984.
One of the white men from her job developed a crush on her. Obviously she rejected him, being married for like 20 years at that point.
He didn’t like that.
At all.
He began harassing her.
...
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